Some luck lies in not getting what you thought you wanted but getting what you have, which once you have got it you may be smart enough to see is what you would have wanted had you known.
- Garrison Keillor
Now back to moving my office. Again.
Monday, January 31, 2005
Friday, January 28, 2005
The Season For Loving (II)
Hello and happy Friday to you, riders! What follows is the second installment in the series entitled "The Season For Loving," a collection of love/romance/dating related writings that will take us all the way up to Valentine's Day (assuming, that is, that I have enough love/romance/dating related thoughts to last that long). We'll see.
Today's topic: The Dating Time Delay
Romance and dating don't come easily to most people. It is rarely straightforward enough for a person to come up with and stick to a "winning system." Of course, some have more success than others for various reasons. In much the same way, some have greater difficulty for various reasons. One key reason that I have failed to reach my full potential in this arena is the dating time delay. I don't really ever know what's going on.
Please don't take that to mean that I don't pay attention or don't care what is happening. I'm very much tuned in. Somehow, though, the information that I take in through my experiences often doesn't process for quite some time. I would estimate that I am usually about 3 months behind on understanding what is happening to me in the romantic realm.
For instance...
(end of a date, at the girl's front door)
Her: (smiling) I had a really great time. I really love being with you.
Me: (also smiling, but in a much more goofy way) Me, too.
Her: Really?
Me: Really.
(she closes her eyes and leans forward to await kiss. I pat her on the back and say...)
Me: I'll talk to you soon.
(then I start to walk back to my car. Halfway there I look back to smile as if to say, "I really do like you." She forces a smile as if to say, "I think I like you, but what the hell's wrong with you?")
About 3 months later...
Me: Wait a minute! I think (her) likes me! But that's weird, because I haven't seen her in like... 3 months. Hmmm...
The Dating Time Delay is a syndrome from which I fear many men (and possibly women, too) suffer. It is time to educate the general public about this debilitating condition so that sufferers don't miss out on everything and so that those who have been hurt by a sufferer don't think themselves unlovable. So, if you think you've been burned by someone who seemed to like you, but didn't do anything about it, give him/her a little time. Be patient. It'll come to him/her eventually. Well, that is, unless they really didn't like you, in which case... um, sorry?
Today's topic: The Dating Time Delay
Romance and dating don't come easily to most people. It is rarely straightforward enough for a person to come up with and stick to a "winning system." Of course, some have more success than others for various reasons. In much the same way, some have greater difficulty for various reasons. One key reason that I have failed to reach my full potential in this arena is the dating time delay. I don't really ever know what's going on.
Please don't take that to mean that I don't pay attention or don't care what is happening. I'm very much tuned in. Somehow, though, the information that I take in through my experiences often doesn't process for quite some time. I would estimate that I am usually about 3 months behind on understanding what is happening to me in the romantic realm.
For instance...
(end of a date, at the girl's front door)
Her: (smiling) I had a really great time. I really love being with you.
Me: (also smiling, but in a much more goofy way) Me, too.
Her: Really?
Me: Really.
(she closes her eyes and leans forward to await kiss. I pat her on the back and say...)
Me: I'll talk to you soon.
(then I start to walk back to my car. Halfway there I look back to smile as if to say, "I really do like you." She forces a smile as if to say, "I think I like you, but what the hell's wrong with you?")
About 3 months later...
Me: Wait a minute! I think (her) likes me! But that's weird, because I haven't seen her in like... 3 months. Hmmm...
The Dating Time Delay is a syndrome from which I fear many men (and possibly women, too) suffer. It is time to educate the general public about this debilitating condition so that sufferers don't miss out on everything and so that those who have been hurt by a sufferer don't think themselves unlovable. So, if you think you've been burned by someone who seemed to like you, but didn't do anything about it, give him/her a little time. Be patient. It'll come to him/her eventually. Well, that is, unless they really didn't like you, in which case... um, sorry?
Thursday, January 27, 2005
A Thought for the Day
"It is a gift to be able to paint a particular picture or to carve a statue, and so to make a few objects beautiful; but it is far more glorious to carve and paint the very atmosphere and medium through which we look. To affect the quality of the day - that is the highest of the arts."
- Henry David Thoreau
- Henry David Thoreau
Tuesday, January 25, 2005
New Look. Same Great Ride!
Welcome back to ZiggyBackRide: The ride of your life. You may notice that the site has a new look to it. Or you may not. Either way, rest assured, it looks different.
Don't let the snazzy new duds fool you, though. It's the same great site that you've been visiting since the ride launched some 18 months ago. My commitment to quality... um... stuff - yeah, stuff - is the same as always.
Don't miss the new "The Season For Loving" series that will be appearing until Valentine's Day. There's good stuff (there's that word again!) to come.
Stop by often and enjoy! I insist.
Don't let the snazzy new duds fool you, though. It's the same great site that you've been visiting since the ride launched some 18 months ago. My commitment to quality... um... stuff - yeah, stuff - is the same as always.
Don't miss the new "The Season For Loving" series that will be appearing until Valentine's Day. There's good stuff (there's that word again!) to come.
Stop by often and enjoy! I insist.
The Season For Loving (I)
With Valentine’s Day approaching, I will offer a series of love/dating/romance related thoughts, reflections, and points for consideration. What follows is the first in the series.
Today’s topic: my favorite reason for a girl to give to break things off with a guy
Over the years, far more reasons than any of us could hope to count have been given by girls to guys in order to end romantic relationships (or hopes for one), so you might assume it would be difficult for me to identify just one that is particularly outstanding. Not so. I have a favorite and I shall share it... now.
“You are too nice.”
Have you ever heard of such a thing? My guess is that you have. I have even heard it about myself. Never from a girl I was dating, but from others who speculated as to why I was no longer dating a girl. What should I do when I hear I might have been too nice for a girl? Go apologize?
“I’m so sorry. I swear I never meant to hurt you. I guess I just never took the time to find out exactly how big an a%&hole you were looking for. I’d like to make it up to you, though, if it’s not too late. I’m friends* with all kinds of jerks and idiots and I’d be happy to introduce you to some of them.”
That’s nice, I think. It’s always good when someone is big enough to go back and mend a broken relationship, and nothing says “I still care for you” like bringing an insufferable jackass into that special someone’s life.
Of course, “too nice” never actually means too nice. You have to figure out what it means for you. For me, was it…
Too boring? Maybe.
Too hairy? Quite possibly.
Too messy? Very likely.
I guess I’ll never know. Unless I remember to ask my old flames when I take my moron friends to meet them, you know, in the hope that my buddies* will do a better job of fulfilling that special dream of the “nice-but-certainly-not-too-nice” guy that all smart girls share.
*None of my friends who are reading the post are the jerks and idiots to whom I refer above. Those are, um, different guys altogether.
Today’s topic: my favorite reason for a girl to give to break things off with a guy
Over the years, far more reasons than any of us could hope to count have been given by girls to guys in order to end romantic relationships (or hopes for one), so you might assume it would be difficult for me to identify just one that is particularly outstanding. Not so. I have a favorite and I shall share it... now.
“You are too nice.”
Have you ever heard of such a thing? My guess is that you have. I have even heard it about myself. Never from a girl I was dating, but from others who speculated as to why I was no longer dating a girl. What should I do when I hear I might have been too nice for a girl? Go apologize?
“I’m so sorry. I swear I never meant to hurt you. I guess I just never took the time to find out exactly how big an a%&hole you were looking for. I’d like to make it up to you, though, if it’s not too late. I’m friends* with all kinds of jerks and idiots and I’d be happy to introduce you to some of them.”
That’s nice, I think. It’s always good when someone is big enough to go back and mend a broken relationship, and nothing says “I still care for you” like bringing an insufferable jackass into that special someone’s life.
Of course, “too nice” never actually means too nice. You have to figure out what it means for you. For me, was it…
Too boring? Maybe.
Too hairy? Quite possibly.
Too messy? Very likely.
I guess I’ll never know. Unless I remember to ask my old flames when I take my moron friends to meet them, you know, in the hope that my buddies* will do a better job of fulfilling that special dream of the “nice-but-certainly-not-too-nice” guy that all smart girls share.
*None of my friends who are reading the post are the jerks and idiots to whom I refer above. Those are, um, different guys altogether.
Monday, January 24, 2005
The Chosen Sport of the Chosen People
Well, it's basketball time! I mean not only that the basketball season is fully upon us, but also, quite literally, that it's time to go play the game tonight. As I mentioned in my last post, the Temple Israel Runnin' Rabbis are in the midst of season III (that's Roman for three!). They have their 6th game of the season in just over an hour. The much-beloved, and yet much maligned squad will be looking for a 2nd win to go along with 3 losses and 1 tie (that's right. a tie.) I'll certainly let you know how that turns out.
Not to be outdone, the girls of Temple Israel are clamoring (perhaps clamoring is a strong word, but a few of them have most certainly inquired about the possibility) for the formation of a ladies squad for a league to begin play later this spring. It could well be this coach's first foray into the world of women's basketball - to date, I've never coached it or played it - and it could be quite successful. There are a number of talented prospects who could make this Temple's first winning team this decade. Stay tuned for news of the Lady Rabs.
Finally, while I love coaching, I still feel the need to get off the bench and play a little ball myself. My Jewish Community Center Men's League team is kickin' some serious butt. We're 3-0 and I'm looking for my second straight championship season there. That would be sweet. I don't get out much.
Not to be outdone, the girls of Temple Israel are clamoring (perhaps clamoring is a strong word, but a few of them have most certainly inquired about the possibility) for the formation of a ladies squad for a league to begin play later this spring. It could well be this coach's first foray into the world of women's basketball - to date, I've never coached it or played it - and it could be quite successful. There are a number of talented prospects who could make this Temple's first winning team this decade. Stay tuned for news of the Lady Rabs.
Finally, while I love coaching, I still feel the need to get off the bench and play a little ball myself. My Jewish Community Center Men's League team is kickin' some serious butt. We're 3-0 and I'm looking for my second straight championship season there. That would be sweet. I don't get out much.
Thursday, January 20, 2005
Hello and Hooray!
Well... hello there! It has certainly been a while. But you're looking wonderful! Really! I see that I last posted in November of last year, proudly exclaiming that "I'm back, baby, and with a vengeance!" Yeah, that worked out well. I just logged on to see if the site still existed and found that I was the 600th visitor. That's reason for the Hooray of the Day! I'm quite excited to have reached this exciting milestone!
Congratulations to America on a lovely inauguration this morning. I hope we have a great four years ahead of us.
For those wondering about the Temple Israel Runnin' Rabbis, the basketball team I coach, the season is in full swing and has been quite eventful. Our record is 1-3-1. That's right. A tie. The league we're in has no overtime. Very strange. This is the earliest in any season that we've ever had a win, so that's exciting. Tune in soon to see what's next for the Rabs!
Speaking of wins, congratulations to the Texas Longhorns on a great Rose Bowl victory. What an exciting game and source of pride for Horns fans. I'm proud as ever to bleed orange!
Catch you later!
Congratulations to America on a lovely inauguration this morning. I hope we have a great four years ahead of us.
For those wondering about the Temple Israel Runnin' Rabbis, the basketball team I coach, the season is in full swing and has been quite eventful. Our record is 1-3-1. That's right. A tie. The league we're in has no overtime. Very strange. This is the earliest in any season that we've ever had a win, so that's exciting. Tune in soon to see what's next for the Rabs!
Speaking of wins, congratulations to the Texas Longhorns on a great Rose Bowl victory. What an exciting game and source of pride for Horns fans. I'm proud as ever to bleed orange!
Catch you later!
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